(Straight) Men don't like drama. Don't start the sentence by saying "I feel..". If you have a problem, fix it. Don't write a long paragraph and describe how you wish this or that, or worse, how you were hurt.
When I was dating in my 20s, I very rarely confronted men, discussed my feelings, told the person I cared about how much I loved (well, whatever that meant) him or how much he hurt me. I just moved on - sans the occasional insanity: I was sometimes caught up by the moment. Which I must admit, in retrospect, I was quite ashamed of it. In those rare situations, I was probably considered a psycho, clingy, demanding bitch.
I write creatively. I'm told by my female readers that they can sense the passion and intensity through my writing. When I write, I take on a different persona.
In real life, I find myself relating to Sookie Stackhouse the most, of course a fictional character. She is cool, she loves with passion, she moves on, and she has a strong sense of herself, and she does not let emotions bog down her life. She lives a full life, She is a care taker, but she does not dwell on things. She therefore is always loved by many (men, vampires, shapeshifters, and werewolves). Because not once does she lose herself in the "love" process. Men like women who ultimately is comfortable in her own skin.
In conclusion, the persona in my writing is a passionate, intense, sensitive one who longs for the till-death-do-us-part grandeur of love. In real life, I prefer drama-free, I'm cool as a cucumber, and I can stand to be warmed up a little by others, maybe one day I could be a toasty chestnut.
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